I'm writing this blog post to tell girls how stupid they are. I've always known this, but someone close to me (no, not you Vee (: ) has driven me crazy on this subject. Keep in mind, if you're a guy reading this post, that the whole perspective can be flipped around. I HATE when girls fawn over men who are worthless pieces of shit.
Just within the last few months, I knew of someone who went crazy over this guy she met at a party. He was charismatic, funny, the "life of the party" (gag), and cute. How much better can he get? Is it too good to be true??? Yeah...It usually is. This ISN'T ALWAYS THE CASE, but most of the time it is. So this guy told the girl how wonderful she was. She was loving it. Who wouldn't? Even if you don't think it's sincere, it's still nice to be told how great/fun/funny/beautiful you are. We all love the attention and compliments.
He decided that he wanted to be with the girl. But, hey! Let's keep things a secret. There's no being "official" on Facebook, cuz it just causes drama, he said. She reported to me everything that had happened. Once she got to the part about him not wanting things facebook official, I told her, "Whoa! That is a HUGE red flag." Well, that advice goes in one ear and out the other. Then other girls start popping up all over the place in his life. Just little signs from Destiny that this loser is definitely NOT her destiny. Pretty soon her calls are being screened and ignored...then he's almost completely unreachable. He ends up having a steady girlfriend (poor girl), and then the girl gets mad at the girlfriend, calls her a bunch of names, talks about how ugly she is, etc. Why be mad at the girl?? She is probably just completely oblivious to what her "boyfriend" is doing. And if she is aware, then she has no self-respect for staying in that kind of a relationship (unless they have an "open relationship" agreement).
There's obviously a reason for him trying to be all incognito. He's seeing someone else. Now, this girl isn't stupid by any means for liking this guy. I mean, most girls and guys can relate to this. People are attracted to people they want but can't have, people who are bad for them, or "bad boys/bad girls". I can honestly say, most of the men I've been attracted to were assholes. Most other people I know can and will admit the same thing.
Even though I knew he was an asshole, some people need to learn things on their own. Learn from their own experiences, and come out of each one stronger and smarter and better off. The whole point of this completely unnecessary rant of mine is to get a point across. Learn from your own experiences. Come out of each experience, whether it is great or horrific, stronger, smarter, and BETTER OFF. Girls (and boys) need to quit asking the question "What did I ever do to deserve this?!" They also need to quit asking "Why me?" or "What did I do wrong?" or "Why am I not good enough for him (or her)?" Just because someone doesn't want to be with you the way you would like them to, or if you just simply got played, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. That person just wasn't the right one for you. You have something better out there for you. Don't beat yourself up if the hunk of your dreams is playing you or just simply not interested. There is probably some bigger and better opportunity out there for you.
Also, do NOT let one person or even a hundred people ruin your hope. You will run into sooooo many people who take and take and take and NEVER give back. You will have your trust betrayed over and over in life. You will have your heart broken countless times, whether it's from a significant other, a potential dating prospect, a death of a loved one or animal, a divorce, losing your best friend, etc. You just need to pick up the pieces and keep on keeping on. Never shut yourself off from feeling or from letting anyone in. Don't bury your emotions, because they will get the best of you. Always be kind, caring, sincere, honest, loyal, and be grateful for every day you have, no matter what people put you through. It'll come back to reward you. Good people are few and far between, but they are out there.
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together." --Marilyn Monroe.